“When a friend makes a mistake, the friend remains a friend, the mistake remains a mistake”
– Shimon Peres
The statement by Shimon Peres, “When a friend makes a mistake, the friend remains a friend, the mistake remains a mistake,” recently got me into a pensive mood. It encapsulates a profound understanding of human relationships and the nature of friendship, emphasizing the importance of distinguishing between a person’s actions and their intrinsic value as a friend.
Looking back at my own experience, I recall how my friends—those who I would swear by—reacted very differently when I made a mistake. Some of my closest friends formed strong opinions about the situation, opinions that were influenced not just by their own perspectives but also by their spouses. This created an undercurrent of tension within our group of close friends, resulting in invisible factions. Invitations to get-togethers became selective, and it was clear that the dynamics had shifted.
Despite the divisions, there were friends who chose not to let this affect our friendship. There were also those who never mentioned anything about the matter to their spouses. They never judged me and instead offered sound advice while listening patiently to me and my challenges. They realized that I needed help, understanding, and most of all, a friend who would stand by me no matter what. These friends embodied the essence of Peres’ quote, as they separated my mistake from my worth as a friend.
Others advised me to keep calm and allow time for things to settle down, assuring me that everything would be fine in the end. Their approach reflected a deep understanding of the transient nature of mistakes, which each one us is vulnerable to, and the importance of giving time for healing and resolution. These friends did not form strong opinions but provided a steady presence, which was very reassuring during a difficult time.
As I reflect on these events now, with the mistake firmly in the past, I often ponder why some friends chose to react the way they did and in my view continue to do so. I have come to understand that every friendship has its dynamics, and people react differently based on their values, experiences, and external influences.
In conclusion, Shimon Peres’ quote serves as a poignant reminder that true friendship transcends mistakes. It encourages us to value our friends for who they are, rather than judging them solely based on their actions.I am grateful for those who stood by me, offering sound advice and non-judgmental support—they truly embody the spirit of friendship. As of others, they will always remain “my friends”.