Love, Sex And Marraige

This note titled “Love, Sex and Marriage”, is based on the all time classic book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, first published in 1937 . The book is a comprehensive guide to achieving goals, not just in terms of wealth, but in all aspects of life.

A section of the book talks about the emotions of Love, Sex and Marriage. His explaination of love is unparalleled. His articulation of the connect, between the emotions of Love, Romance and Sex are thought provoking. His views on the balances in a marriage are worth a read.

Back in time, when the book was penned, there were only a handful of successful and famous women in the society. Therefore the last part of the note is limited to his study of the lives of successful men. He emphasises upon the powerful influence of the women in a man’s life.

How much of the author’s views hold true in the modern day context is for every reader to decide, based on his or her own experiences.

Love

Love is without question, life’s greatest experience. Memories of love never pass.

“The effect of love endures, because love is spiritual in nature. Even the memories of love are sufficient to lift one to a higher plane of creative effort. Bathe your mind in the beautiful memories of past love. They will soften the influence of present worries, unpleasant realities of life.

Love is whimsical and temperamental. It’s nature is ephermal and transitory. It comes when it pleases, and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.

It’s untrue, that love happens only once. It may come and go many times. No two love experiences will affect in the same way, but there usually is one love experience, which leaves a deeper imprint on the heart.

All love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when love makes it’s departure.”

The Emotions of Love, Romance and Sex

Love, Romance and Sex are all emotions capable of driving men and women to heights of super achievement.

“Love is spiritual, while sex is biological. Emotion of sex is most intense and powerful of all mind stimuli.

When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of Purpose,poise, accuracy of judgment and balance.

When the emotion of romance is added to those of love and sex, the obstructions between the finite mind and Infinite Intelligence are removed. The genius is thus born.

The emotion of love, when mixed with the emotion of sex, softens, modifies, and beautifies the facial expression.”

The Balances in a Marriage

Marriages not blessed with eternal affinity of love, properly balanced and proportioned with sex, cannot be happy, and seldom endure.

“Love alone will not bring happiness in marraige, nor will sex alone. When these two beautiful emotions are blended, marraige may bring out a state of mind, closest to the spiritual that one may ever know.”

Who you choose to be with can turn out to be the most important decision of your life. In the modern day context, “fortunate are those whose partners understands the balance between the emotions of love, sex and romance. The making or breaking of any relationship is the consequence of your partner’s understanding or lack of understanding of the emotions of love, sex or romance. ”

Successful Men, & The Women in their Lives

Men are easily managed by the women of their choice

Napoleon Hill authored Think and Grow Rich in 1937. He presents a point of view, based on how things were then. He states that, “Men who accumulate large fortunes, and attain to heights of power and fame, do so, mainly to satisfy their desire to please women. Take women out of their lives, and great wealth would be useless to most men. It is the inherent desire of man to please woman, which gives woman the power to make of break him.“
The woman who understands man’s nature and tactfully caters to it, does not have to fear competition from other women.“

On Positive Thoughts

Nature has so built us, that they can have control over the thoughts which reach our sub conscious mind, through the five senses. The sub conscious mind is a fertile garden, in which if good seeds are not sown, weeds will grow. In the same way, the thoughts that we have repeatedly in the conscious mind, whether positive or destructive, will manifest, because of the power of sub conscious mind which is influenced by these thoughts. Whenever there is a negative thought, replace it with a more powerful positive thought, accompanied by a strong positive emotion. Faith and love are the two positive and strong emotions.

Excerpt from “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill

कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती – हरिवंश राय श्रीवास्तव “बच्चन” 

कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती
लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती
नन्ही चींटीं जब दाना ले कर चढ़ती है
चढ़ती दीवारों पर सौ बार फिसलती है
मन का विश्वास रगॊं मे साहस भरता है
चढ़ कर गिरना, गिर कर चढ़ना न अखरता है
मेहनत उसकी बेकार नहीं हर बार होती
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती
डुबकियाँ सिंधु में गोताखोर लगाता है
जा-जा कर खाली हाथ लौट कर आता है
मिलते न सहज ही मोती गहरे पानी में
बढ़ता दूना विश्वास इसी हैरानी में
मुट्ठी उसकी खाली हर बार नहीं होती
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती
असफलता एक चुनौती है, स्वीकार करो
क्या कमी रह गयी देखो और सुधार करो
जब तक न सफल हो नींद-चैन को त्यागो तुम
संघर्षों का मैदान छोड़ मत भागो तुम
कुछ किए बिना ही जय-जयकार नहीं होती
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती

Sunset…


As I watched the Sun set this evening, what struck me was how the rising sun, which brings in so much warmth, energy and sunshine each morning; fades away into oblivion every evening, bringing in a sense of calm and tranquility. The setting sun goes down quietly, with the satisfaction of having completed a hard day’s work, allowing the night to take over ; with the confidence that it will rise again tomorrow, and take charge of a new day, starting afresh with a new beginning.

Finding Comfort In Friends


The reason why we all find comfort in our friends is because they accept us for who we are. Friends don’t judge. They may have a different opinion, which they would share – but with true friends, it just ends there. It’s a blessing to have a true friend in you, Happy Friendship Day

Take Care of Yourself

The experiences of life teach you more than anything else – about yourself, relationships, business, money, health, work, spirituality.
I have always believed that, Life is Beautiful and have realized that no one but you, yourself are responsible for bringing happiness to your life. Happy times may not be always, but you have to be patient and positive, and keep doing your part. At times, you have to let the storm pass by, and just lay low. Don’t try to brave the storm, but don’t give up either. Think with your head, but do not stop following your heart. The important thing is to learn to accept, because not everything is in your control.Circumstances change, people change. Nothing is constant.
You don’t need to be honest with anyone, but yourself. Define your own philosophy, values and principles – and live by them, without bothering or being worried about what others think, because we tend to be judgmental when it comes to others. We have our own perspectives, which are hard to change. Nobody is perfect. We are human, and make mistakes. We are not completely rational, or think only with the mind; we are largely ruled by our emotions. And while true happiness will always lie within, our emotions, feelings and consequently our behaviors are largely influenced and controlled by others – our near and dear ones. Do your part, on the responsibilities towards the family and society, work – because that is the role were chosen to play.
The only person who will be with you all your life, is you, and, you have to take care of yourself.

Krishna : Living in Harmony with the Contradictions of Life

Sharing a good read, (partially edited) on Lord Krishna. It signifies the importance of living in harmony with the many contradictions of life.
He can play the flute and he can dance, and with the same ease he can fight his enemy in the battlefield with his chakra, his wheel-like weapon. He can play pranks with the girls of his village, running away with their clothes when they are bathing in the river, and he can also make the most profound statements like in the Gita. He can be a thief and a perfect together. Krishna is one person in so many diverse roles — and that is his grandeur, his glory. And this is the uniqueness of Krishna, his individuality.
Krishna is a blending of contradiction, a beautiful synthesis of all contradictions. These contradictions aren’t really contradictory. In fact, all of life’s truth is a blending, a synthesis of contradictions. The whole of life is based on contradictions, and there is no discordance in those contradictions; rather, there is full accord, absolute harmony among them.
We think peace and ‘disturbancer’ are two different things. But are they really different? Where does peace end and disturbance begin? In the dictionary, peace and disturbance, happiness and suffering, life and death, have opposite meanings, but in real life it is peace that turns into disturbance, happiness that turns into suffering, life that turns into death. Again, in real life, disorder turns into order, suffering into happiness and death into life. In real life, light turns into darkness, morning turns into evening and day into night and vice versa.In real life plus and minus are not opposites. In real life, all seeming opposites are complementary, an interplay of one and the same energy. If we can see through this eternal harmony of life, its supreme, sublime music, its significance, then alone can we understand Krishna. That is why we call him the complete incarnation. He is a complete symbolisation of life; he represents life totally.
Whenever someone is fulfilled, after he attains full flowering of life and being, he will necessarily become multidimensional, he will be many persons rolled into one. Whenever someone attains the totality of life, there will be a consistency in his inconsistencies, there will be a harmony in his contradictions. Whenever someone achieves the peak of life, the extremes of life will meet in him with perfect cohesion and unity. We may not see that unity because of our poor vision, but it is there.
With all these contradictions, there is only one Krishna, and that is his greatness and glory. His significance, his greatness lies in the fact that he is all things together, all things rolled into one, all contradictions living hand in hand, and there is a great harmony in all his contradictions.
Excerpts edited from Krishna: The Man And His Philosophy, Osho Times International, courtesy Osho International Foundation, www.osho.com

You Are Your Own Start Up

A talk with the students of Thadomal Shahani Engineering College (TSEC), Mumbai, By Jayesh Tekchandaney, an Alumini of TSEC, Chemical Engineering
Feel blessed and fortunate to have been given the opportunity to share personal and professional experiences with the students of my Alma Mater, Thadomal Shahani Engineering College (TSEC), Mumbai, on 6 September, 2018. The talk is titled, “You Are Your Own ‘Start Up'”. Am happy to share the key points of the the talk.
If I have seen far, it is because I have stood on the shoulders of giants
1. Life comes without a syllabus. Learn by Yourself
2. Give It Your Best Shot – You are being Watched
3. Just Do It – Work is work, no matter what.
4. Believe in Yourself and Believe in what You Have Built
5. Get on the Field, That’s where The Game is Played
6. It’s ‘A’ or ‘F’, Strive Hard for the Best, Be Prepared for the Worst
7. You will Fail, Accept It, But, Never Never Never Give Up
8. Leaders are Readers and Readers are Leaders
9. Set Goals
10. You Are Your Own ‘Start-Up’. Your Career is Your Business, Your are it’s CEO
“Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass.” – Paul Meyer